Life is like a TV show

I need to get this topic thought through and digested. I don't want it to haunt me until one day when I look back I realize I didn't have to carry this burden.

How do we deal with people who get personal and mean showing loads of unfairness and favouritism? This is exceptionally painful for the victims because for one reason that we don't deserve such treatment.

Think again, do you want to remain a victim or a champion in this mind battle that you are in? Although we emphasize a lot about being professional in our work, woman being wired as an emotional creature will somehow bring emotions into the situation. Or some intelligent and smart people try to play some mind games to (what my friend always call it) mindf*** you and cripple your mental and emotional being. Attacking the mental and emotional area of the army is part of a warfare strategy. They say; the most painful torture and struggle doesn't begin with the physical; it is the mental and emotional that is worst.

So coming back to the situation, do you allow these people to demoralize you further?

My friend said one sentence which reminded me the reason of being here. What I go through today, will one day help those who are going through the same situation. I could relate, I could understand, I could encourage.

I asked myself two simple questions. One, how do we measure the success in this mind game? Two, one month later, when I look back, does all these matter?

For the first question, I think what is success is when you gain the direct opposite of what these bullies intend to make you into. Enlarge and strengthen your small and thin heart to face these giants everyday. Don't allow whatever they do to affect you in any way. Laugh it off, be gracious, be a big person, be light hearted. Afterall, you know that they are coming for you, so all the more you should be mentally prepared for such treatment. Just remind yourself, whatever a man sows, he shall surely reap. Understand that it is not for us to judge and cast a punishment on what they do, because there is a more powerful Advocate who will look out for us. Let Him do that part. We focus on where we need to go and what we need to do.

For the latter, one month later, I will look back and laugh at myself saying "Why the hell did I let it affect me? It doesn't matter now anyway." Yes, that is how I will answer myself. So since one month later, it wouldn't matter, isn't it better to start now? Why go through the pain and realize its for nothing? I would hope to leave this place happy and burden-free with a stronger heart towards such people.

These needs to be drilled into me. I think I take things too seriously and its time to be a little light-hearted. I'll feel happier that way.

Cheers!

I find what she says pretty down-to-earth and inspiring.

Taken part of the article from the cover story of "The Edit - October 31 2013"

Simply enchanting. Sensitive yet sensational, the ethereal Guinevere Van Seenus talks to Natalie Rigg about why she took a step back from her stellar modeling career, her passion for magical stories and finding her own happy ending.

Now 36 years old, she has enjoyed almost two decades in the spotlight, notching up global advertising campaigns for fashion powerhouses, including Prada, Kenzo and Miu Miu as well as countless magazine covers. She is a long-term muse and confidante to the pioneering Italian photographer Paolo Roversi.

Did you always want to be a model?
"No, I had never considered myself to be model material. It was actually my mother who suggested that I give it a try and enrolled me in a runway school in Santa Barbara when I was 15. I didn't take it seriously at first and considered modeling to be a fun hobby, like basketball or volleyball."

When did you get your big break?
"I was sent to Los Angeles on a casting for David LaChapelle in 1995. It was extremely rare to get in front a photographer of that magnitude. At the time, I was used to getting rejected, because my own look was so far removed from the typical blonde, Californian girl that was the trend. But he liked me and we ended up doing the most beautiful, fairy-tale-inspired story for The Face magazine."

Who has been the strongest influence on your career?
My agent in Paris was the catalyst. She really understood my look and made sure I saw the right people. My early relationships with [photographers] Paolo Roversi and Steven Meisel were also key."

What is the most valuable piece of advice you have been given?
"There was a period in my career when I decided to take a break from modeling and Paolo showed me a level of support that went beyond the job. He pulled me aside to say, 'You must remember that we all love you because of who you are, not because of what you do." That meant a lot to me."

You took a two-year hiatus from modeling in 1996, why?
"I worked very heavily for a number of years and suddenly realized I couldn't handle it anymore. That level of intensity was hard because I'm not a natural performer. So I retreated, recuperated and tried to find normality again by reconnecting to the things I love, such as craftwork and jewelry making. After reaching a point where I felt that I could handle the pace again, I tiptoed back into the industry, choosing projects that really interested me."

What is your perception of your own beauty?
"I have reached a place where I feel at my most beautiful in front of a camera. I think I'm lucky in that my look is very versatile. People often say that I look completely different in all my photos, so it's nice to be able to transform in that way."

Your life motto?
"Progress, not perfection. I am pretty hard on myself, so I am trying to learn how to enjoy things and be lighter about life."

Labels: Interview, The Edit Interview

I finally got the word that kept lingering in my mind to describe the combination of masculine and feminine characteristics:

Androgyny / Androgynous fashion. 

Sometimes, I find it inappropriate to say masculine dressing because there is still little details of femininity. Like wearing a boxy suit with a shirt and skinny pants with high stilettos. I doubt any feminine woman would want to dress up looking like a total man.

So androgynous dressing is a good term to describe that fashion style.

I was reading about "The Interview: Daphne Guinness" and thought what a world full of grief, sadness and death she is living in.

She shared about the death of her best friend Isabella Blow and Alexander Lee McQueen and said "I'm passionate about surviving. I'm trying to build something of my life. I need to live my life, not everybody else's death."

To think she can say that, it meant she must have gone through a lot emotionally. She probably have thoughts of leaving this world to join them. What a misery. I felt sad looking at this industry filled with so many depression cases. Depression which easily leads to death. It also meant there is a lot of potential in this industry.

Above all, try not to take everything so seriously or read into every actions or behaviour. The best is to laugh it off and life can be simpler as well as happier.

And I realize, creative people looks weird because they have crazy ideas. So sometimes crazy is a norm to them. Don't be too surprised or taken aback. LOL.

Labels: Interview, The Edit Interview

Tibi Spring 2014 -
By Amy Smilovic.

Labels: Fashion Show, FS Spring 2014, Tibi

Victoria Beckham Spring 2014 -
Manly. Sporty. Black & White. Clean look.

Labels: Fashion Show, FS Spring 2014, Victoria Beckham

Vionnet Spring 2014 -
By Goga Ashkenazi. Love the material and colours chosen; playing with draping to create the feminine look and design to the simple and clean look.

Labels: Fashion Show, FS Spring 2014, Vionnet

Tell me that I deserve much more. 

This is a trying period. Clouded future, challenging situation, people lost in direction and faith tested.

Do I believe in miracles? Do I believe in breakthroughs? Do I believe in the power of prayer?

Do I believe in God?

My mind is telling me that I am meant for so much more. But my heart has problem believing that it is so. 

"Stuck in a moment and I can't get out of here."

Labels: Fashion Show, FS Spring 2014, Proenza Schouler

Givenchy Spring 2014 -
Creative ideas.

Labels: Fashion Show, FS Spring 2014, Givenchy